5 texts that mean he's pulling away.
Twelve years behind a bar. These are the five texts I hear guys describe, out loud, right before they fade. Here's what each one usually means, and one calm line to send back. Screenshot this page.
No day, no plan. Guys say it out loud at my bar: "I'm keeping her warm." If he wanted to see you, he'd name a day.
"I'd like that. When?" One question, once. If the answer is another "soon," you have your answer.
Everybody's busy. Busy men still find ten minutes for the woman they want. "Busy" usually means "you're not a priority right now."
"No worries. When things calm down, you know where to find me." Then don't chase. Let him come back with a plan, not an apology.
The conversation is on life support. He's being polite, not engaged.
Don't fill the silence with more effort. Close it warmly: "Anyway, have a good night." See if he restarts it.
Not always anger. Most guys send it when they don't know what to say and they're scared of saying it wrong.
Don't send another paragraph. Send one line: "Call me when you've got two minutes." If he calls, you've got a guy. If not, you've got your answer.
What he told me at the bar: "I'm not looking for anything serious with her." Hard to hear. Good news, though: you can stop waiting.
Don't argue, don't convince. "Okay. I am." And mean it.
His next move is the real answer. — Marcus
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See Translate HimMarcus is an AI-generated character; his stories are fictional. General dating ideas for adults, not professional advice. If someone controls, threatens or scares you: National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788.